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How do you accept criticism?
How to Accept Criticism with Grace and Appreciation
- Stop Your First Reaction. If your first reaction is to lash back at the person giving the criticism, or to become defensive, take a minute before reacting at all.
- Turn a Negative Into a Positive.
- Thank the Critic.
- Learn from the Criticism.
- Be the Better Person.
Why are people defensive?
Research has shown that defensiveness in response to wrongdoing is exacerbated by making the wrong doer feel like they’re an outcast. Defensive behaviours are common responses when people feel personally attacked but can undermine our ability to identify problems and find solutions.
What causes defensive behavior?
When someone is embarrassed by what another person says or does, they may respond defensively. Embarrassment often occurs because of incorrect beliefs someone may have about themselves such as worthlessness, fear of abandonment, failure, or scarcity of positives in their lives.
How do you deal with a defensive person?
How can you help someone stop their defensive reactions?
- Refrain from reacting defensively.
- Shift your focus to the other person.
- Ask questions until you understand them.
- Move toward a resolution.
What does it mean if someone is defensive?
Someone on the defensive is concerned with justifying their actions or words. They have a defensive attitude as they try to protect themselves. If you know that to defend is to protect, you have an idea what defensive means. When a person is acting defensive, they’re trying to protect or justify themselves.
What’s the difference between being defensive and defending yourself?
There is no difference between defensiveness and defending yourself. Learning to step away from the need to defend yourself in any given interaction is one of the most powerful relational skills you can develop. There are very few scenarios in which we truly need to defend our point of view.
How can I defend myself without getting defensive?
Can You Defend Yourself Without Being Defensive?
- Be Secure In Who You Are. You’re less likely to get defensive or hurt over something when you know for sure that it’s not true.
- Stop Retaliating & Genuinely Listen.
- Use I Statements.
- Think Long-Term Instead Of Short-Term.
- Learn How To Receive Criticism.
- It’s OK To Be Wrong.
How can you defend yourself?
Focus on the vulnerable areas
- Hammer strike. Using your car keys is one of the easiest ways to defend yourself.
- Groin kick.
- Heel palm strike.
- Elbow strike.
- Alternative elbow strikes.
- Escape from a ‘bear hug attack’
- Escape with hands trapped.
- Escape from side headlock.